As far as personal milestones go, moving in with your partner is quite a big commitment. You may think it may be no different to the countless day and nights that you spend at each other’s places, and that moving in together officially is the next natural step. However, when there is a new shared commitment, along with the pressures of having someone legally tied to your space, then cracks may begin to appear. For many couples, moving in together is one of the most critical milestones, as it is a true test of your commitment and the sign of a potential future together. In addition to this, there is also the financial responsibility of owning a home with another person. This can be stressful as the financial responsibility may be a new venture for you both. Before you move in with your significant other, there are a lot of key conversations to be had, transitions to be made and plans to be put in place. Here at We Buy Any House we have compiled our top tips for moving in with a significant other.
Understand the Other Persons Goals:
Before you commit to signing any contracts or even looking for a home to buy, it’s important to have a conversation about what you want to achieve by moving in together. Although your future could change in an instant, it’s important to discuss what living together means. Whether you’re moving in together to start a family, get married, or whether you see this as a temporary option- it’s important to make your feelings clear so that the other person doesn’t feel deceived due to miscommunication.
Trial It Out:
The saying ‘try before you buy’ is one to note in this content. You may think you want to live together, but the process of moving in together is a huge commitment. It important to trial it out. If possible, stay at each other’s places as much as you can. Spend weekends and holidays together, and do all the little things that require you to spend time together, such as the food shop. It’s important that you do this as you will be able to see where unexpected frustrations arise, and from this you can make decisions as how you want your future to look.
Aside from the personality clash that may happen once you move in, there will be plenty of opportunities for arguments to arise. These are typically over the more ‘adult’ side of living together- such as finances, bills, food shopping and guests visiting or staying over. These are things you need to discuss in depth, not only to get on the same page but also to make a plan of how you are going to live together. Perhaps the most important area is finances. Work out finances, how you are going to split costs fairly, as this is the biggest cause of arguments.
Try to Declutter Before You Move In:
It’s always a good idea to declutter, but especially before you move in with your significant other for the first time. You and your partners sensibilities may differ, and this could be a source for arguments. Decluttering before you move in will be one less stress to tick off the list, and you can both happily co-habit without arguing over each other’s clutter. A fresh start for you both in your new property.
Compromise is Key:
Compromise is going to be something which will have to factor into your home living. When living with someone new, it doesn’t matter how much you think you’re going to get along- conflict will arise if there is no compromise between you both. From home layout, décor to smaller things such as leaving the lights on, you will have to find a way to live harmoniously.
Don’t Forget to Personalise:
Although you are sharing your space with someone, don’t forget that you still need to personalise the property to make it your own. Although you may need to compromise with your significant other, it’s a good idea to each bring your own unique flare to your shared space. This way you can both decide on an interior design style that suits you equally, but has attributes to your individual taste.